I had a moment today. I certainly failed at, I guess you could call it, correcting a brother about a particular statement made about some doctrine. I was definitely challenging wording. I care about that. Words matter. Ideas have consequences. That said, if you put all the above-bolded phrases together, I would use the word that Voddie Baucham has used - winsome. I was not winsome in my approach toward my brother. To be certain, I apologized to him.
Then, I apologized to him again. I heard my brother in Christ, Gabe Hughes, in a Q&A, and during this Q&A came up the subject of the known false teacher, Steven Anderson, in which he recently ran out someone who challenged him on the doctrine of the Trinity during a church service. His attitude was the exact opposite of the characteristics listed above. Yelling, screaming, arrogant, blasphemous. I felt immediately convicted of my own passion in today's conversation. I feel terrible. I was a bad example to him and to those who witnessed this "conversation." I am thankful to my brother who forgave me. I pray for the above characteristics to be evident in my life even in the face of concern over the precious Word of God. May I be winsome, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable (wow!) and not quick-tempered, arrogant, and the like.